The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

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They crave attention and want to feel significant by becoming the authority and have a feeling of superiority.

Instead of there always being a clear course of action, conscious parenting insists that parents work with children to sort through issues as they arise and stay in the moment. You could even use this as an opportunity to work with your child to create a new hairdo if they desire one! I'm over half way through this book and so far there have been no suggestions on actually how to deal with a situation, only stories of happenings with other families that are usually quite negative. Punishment may stop a behaviour, or it may not, but it definitely won’t teach a child to replace inappropriate behaviour with more productive behaviour. How can we raise independent, autonomous children if we ourselves aren’t independent and autonomous?It’s not just about feeding and nurturing the body; it’s also about establishing the right foundations in the mind. Children’s minds are excellent absorbers; they absorb everything and anything without filtering it initially. If parents focus on inner transformation first, they’ll see that you are not perfect — their ideas are faulty too. As an international speaker, she speaks at events around the globe, spreading her message of conscious parenting and mindful living.

We have to think and look at parenting from a different perspective and try to understand what is causing the problem repeatedly. Tsabary goes so far as to even claim that “the relationship between parent and child exists for the primary purpose of the parent's transformation and only secondarily for the raising of the child. It can be difficult to understand what is going on in someone else’s mind if you don’t have a basic understanding of psychology.As they come to see that they can transform each experience into one that increases their self-awareness and promotes their growth, they learn to regard life as their friend, an intimate partner on their journey to self-awareness. As a parent I can see the many ways in which my own makeup has been imposed on my child unknowingly and its these aspects where I struggle the most as a parent. Conscious parenting does include setting boundaries (particularly when it comes to requesting respectful communication).

Like any other relationship, it requires taking actions that build trust, open the lines of communication, and develop affinity for one another. Imagine that your 5-year-old has been left alone and gotten hold of the scissors (every parent’s worst nightmare! Conscious parenting means being aware of your own emotional hurts and parenting yourself, first and foremost.

Definitely a great source of informations for parents willing to raise children in a more human way. I feel that this book is more of a reminder of what goes on in certain families and not really helpful in how to achieve mindful parenting, how to be more aware and how to quickly assess our children's needs. Furthermore, don’t forget to give them space to make mistakes, and then explain why they are mistakes.

Here is a challenge for you – today, before bedtime, look your child in the eyes and say three things you appreciate about them.Taking charge of our life so that we alter the quality of our experiences in the future comes after an experience. Conscious parenting sees children as “mirrors of their parents’ forgotten selves” and advises parents to veer into the mirror so they can “establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness.