The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion And Peace With Your Man

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A man with an addiction to a substance such as alcohol or drugs, or to an activity such as gambling cannot be trusted. I can offer little hope of intimacy in this situation, as he will always serve his addiction ahead of your safety and happiness. It was not always the case. Both agree their marriage was on the brink of collapse. John felt he could not do anything right, so why bother trying? He sulked, while Laura saw him as incompetent and unloving. Then she decided to try something different. Why not try trust, give him the reins of control, lavish a bit of praise?

When you spend a lot of time with someone, you get to know all of his faults, and they can seem quite glaring. You may think your husband has more than his share of problems, but chances are, he just has the usual number of human foibles. He also has a number of gifts, talents and strengths that impressed you at one time. If you can't remember what those were, it's time to shift your focus. of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace by Laura Doyle Respect means that when he takes the wrong freeway exit youdon’t correct him by telling him where to turn. It means that if he keeps going in the wrong direction you will go past the state line and still not correct what he’s doing. In fact, no matter what your husband does, you will not try to teach, improve, or correct him. Women say that they want the emotional closeness. They want that connection. They want their man to listen and emphasize with their feelings. No problem, I am happy to do that. I want to be there for my woman in every way.Rather than try to convince her that they both needed to apologize, I decided to take a different tact. I asked her what was more important: his apology (and her ego) or restored harmony. It didn’t take long for her to admit that it was the latter. It wasn’t long before she was willing to break the ice.

You feel the urge to protect yourself with aloofness or insults. It’s just human nature. Flinging some hurtful arrows his way seems not only justified, but necessary. For one thing, they don't harbor grudges like we do. That means that while I've still got a list of grievances from things my husband said in 1989, he's generally focused on the present and has forgotten (and therefore forgiven) all my transgressions from the past.I remember how unattractive and shameful I felt when I would boss John and complain. In the middle of my tirade, I thought I was saying what had to be said, but my self-respect deteriorated with each harsh word. No matter how justified I felt in yelling or correcting, I inevitably beat myself up afterwards, and of course that only made me feel worse. Instead, practice saying these empowering words: "I can't." They work just as well when your child's teacher asks you to volunteer in the classroom as they do when your husband asks you to stop by the dry cleaners on an already too-busy day. They require no further explanation.