Watching my wife with another man

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After 4 months without so much as a touch we got into a fight in front of my friends. Everyone was drinking, someone complained about their sex life and I made a comment about my wife in front of her and 11 of my friends. That fight (and other buildup) led to us being separated for 6 months now. 4 months totally separated, 2 months in marriage counseling. He replied "I saw you up there" (speaking of me dancing with the stranger) "and you certainly seemed to be enjoying yourself!""AND if you had pushed up against him any harder you'd have done it right there on the dance floor" A little about us… We've been married about a year, I'm 27, and he's 35. I'm about 5'6", 132lbs with "C" breasts and a flat stomach. He's about 6'0", 190 lbs, muscular and with some sexy hair on his chest and very strong arms.

I really want to make our marriage work. I think the whole incident is bringing up a lot of things that we could work through to make our relationship stronger. But he is shutting me out, not looking at me or talking to me it's like we're already divorced. I struggle with seeing the situation for what it really is. I know the ****ty situation I am in, but my wife is able to fog it and make me second guess. How does one get the mind games to stop and trust that they are making the right decision to divorce? Long term I may be happy with the decision to divorce, how do I be happy with that decision in the meantime? How do I feel like I did all that I could and made the right decision for myself and my kids? Short Story Writing | Writers | Read Online | Writing Contests | Writing Software | Writing Journals | Writing A Book | Writing A Novel I am open to most opinions but I’m going to disagree that I’m immature and that a marriage is more than I can handle. I have made mistakes, that is no secret. I know that choosing to separate was a mistake and we both should have agreed to go to counselling instead. My wife suggested it. By that point I had no interest in putting in effort. I am trying to put in an effort now to fix those mistakes, even though it's likely too late. It’s entirely possible that we shouldn’t be together, but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be with someone else.You have to ask yourself, is this how two people who love and are devoted each other, treat each other and their marriage? No, it's not!

Oh come on now! Since when does someone not getting attention make behavior like this okay? I think we each and everyone of us knows right from wrong. Was she thinking of how this might affect or hurt her husband? NO....Was she offended or put off by this talk and behavior? NOT ONE LITTLE BIT.Did she have a hand in encouraging or agging on the behavoior? Absolutely she did!I also get the feeling there is more to this story, but based on what did happen and her response to what happened, she sure wasnt thinking about how she might be betraying her partner. I would seriously run to a counselor, no I would advise you to run to a counselor because if my husband did something like this and still kept friendly correspondenceafterward, he would be out on his ear. I take trust very seriously.

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Here's the thing, my wife isn't just some bait and switch *****. She has ALWAYS been the same regarding sex. So yeah, my bad as I knew what I was marrying. We didn't even have sex until we had been together for 16 months. She took OVER A YEAR to have sex with me, yet went and ****ed another dude, that she had met twice. We haven't had sex since separating. She won't **** me but will **** 3 other men. Or maybe she had been ****ing others during or marriage. Female sexual fulfillment. Women's sexual capacity is far greater than that of males'. The world record for male orgasms is about 26 in a 24-hour period. Per Sherfey's research, women have documented as many as 60-65 orgasms in a single hour. I saw many men who reported that their wives were highly sexual beings, with a greater sexual capacity, and it simply turned the husbands on and pleased them to be able to see their wives sexually satisfied, to a degree that a single husband couldn't match. I also speculate that there is a degree of vicarious experience here: By being a part of the experience, the husband gets to vicariously experience what it's like to have that greater sexual capacity and identifies in a strong manner with his wife and the essence of female sexuality in a way that most men never experience. so, your wife got drunk and danced with a guy. you were present and stopped it because you didnt like what you saw. but, in the process, you caused a scene, that your wife likely now feels responsible for. The obvious question that had be asked is whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way. “No, I wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t want to,” she asserts. “I like being able to experience pleasure with other men. However, with sex anyone other than Shane is purely sexual. Our relationship is my prime focus.”