The New Bottoming Book

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Infusing BDSM with spiritual weight is totally fine, but I don't think it belongs in a primer for newbies. I made a concerted effort to read this chapter without judgement, but when the authors mentioned a rigger friend of theirs who saw visions of "animal spirits" and received psychic messages while tying people up, my eyes started to roll involuntarily. The conclusion is also a bit up-its-own-ass, talking about Lucifer and illuminating the darkness within and stuff like that, and I mean, come on now. We're not monks, we're people who like to flog others for fun. But I suppose it's better to treat BDSM with too much reverence than not enough.

The authors stress the boundary between fantasy and reality, but as soon as you act out the fantasy, it becomes reality. If I was, I still am, because the concept of such practices and relationships eludes me. I cannot fathom how such an unequal shift of power can be enjoyable. All in all, I find the book very basic in it's explaining what bottoming is and how to start on that path. Certainly recommended for the novice this book can help shed the nervousness and dispel the fantasy of play.The book was inclusive and had some interesting views regarding spirituality and BDSM that I haven't seen in my other research.

Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2021-10-09 11:07:03 Associated-names Hardy, Janet W Boxid IA40257202 Camera USB PTP Class Camera Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier D/s relationship. It was crystal clear that the authors our experts or at the very least possess a vast amount of knowledge on this subject. Unfortunately, I found the first half of this book to be extremely dull, at one point thinking about messaging the couple who recommended it to make sure they hadn't made a mistake! The initial parts of this book discuss basic, general aspects of BDSM. About 50% in, the book becomes much more interesting. The latter portions delves into some very deep issues, focused on information best suited for those who have been involved in BDSM for quite some time. The New Topping Book is a great answer to the question many new tops have: "How do I actually do it?" This book isn't just a guide to resources and fundamentals of safety and communication, it walks you through creating a viable emotional and conceptual framework for your own domination. Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-beta-20210815 Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9781 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-WL-1200066 Openlibrary_edition Kinktionary written by Ignixia Roberts and has been published by Independently Published this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2020-11-06 with categories.This was a fairly comprehensive beginners' guide. It was well written, lively, and approachable. All good things. If it has a strength, it is that the authors, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, are very concerned with making sure that there is something useful for any new or would-be top who reads this book. The trade-off is that this is an extremely generalist book that is not going to be fully applicable to individual circumstances. When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often. For millennia, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM and leather practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. In Radical Ecstasy, bestselling BDSM/sexuality authors Easton and Hardy document their own journeys into the transcendent realm of kink. With their trademark frankness and humor, they share their own stories and philosophies. They also share techniques that have worked for them - techniques which combine tantric breathing, visualization and movement with a combined half-century of BDSM experience - to create states of transcendence during solo and partnered sexual and BDSM practice. As outrageously revolutionary as any sex book published in the last decade, Radical Ecstasy sets the stage for the new millennium in BDSM and sacred-sex practices - a "must" for any kink, tantra, pagan or sacred-sex practitioner. "Amazingly mindful exploration of that which cannot be easily put into words... the ecstatic experience from sex to sadomasochism, from trance to intuition to archetypes and spiritual awakening. Totally real and personal. Not a 'how to' but a nurturing 'can do' book." - Fakir Musafar, father of the modern primitive movement. "Progressive, deliciously honest, and HOT HOT HOT! Dossie and Janet ask difficult questions about the nature of sex, intimacy and ecstasy, then they actually manage to answer the questions, plus turn us on when they do. These two erotically gifted women have a way with words - and sex. They raise the bar on erotic writing and sex education to new heights. I'm in awe." - Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., prostitute/porn star turned sex guru/sexologist "Fascinating, heartfelt, honest, real stories of the heart/spirit/energy connection experienced in the passionate rituals of intimate consensual power play. These two courageous women write brilliantly of how erotic energies connect us with the big love we all seek from the source." - Cleo Dubois, educator, ritualist, video producer/star

This was a solid intro book to topping/dom dynamics — accessible writing, encouraging and non-judgemental language, a decent amount of nuance. It feels like Dossie and Janet are your kinky and occasionally problematic white lady aunties loud-whispering secrets to you in a movie theatre while making sure you’re on your shit with safer sex.These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle. All they say is to communicate and sit patiently with whatever your partner has to say unless it cramps your poly style -- hey what a great idea! to talk to your partner! & your "wrong"-headed feelings of jealousy will magically go away if you just talk yourself out of them. There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM.