Men In Love

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She has lost her ability to say no; has been unknowingly frozen into the position of an indulgent mother who allows the boy everything he wants.

I'd be lying if I had said I'd never thought of something wild and inappropriate while in a relationship. I'd love to see a collection of fantasies similar to this and My Secret Garden done today with the internet having changed so much in our awareness of the diversity of fantasy life. She gave them a legitimate arena where they could share their "secret gardens" -- the hidden and forbidden but nonetheless real and true.Without the Freudian commentary the book as a series of fantasies written by men would have been fascinating, it's a shame that it missed the boat. Friday said she got very few rape fantasies among her submissions, though I think her definition of what constitutes a rape fantasy may be significantly narrower than mine because she said she got only 3, and I counted several more than that in the book.

It doesn't have to be about exploring their own or their partner's (or anyone else's) psychology, or their own (or anyone else's) relationship dynamic in any way, or about communicating with their partner (or other people communicating with each other) through physical intimacy at all. Depending on what type of person you are you may find this quite shocking, even Nancy Friday admitted to not knowing what to think of one of the fantasies in this book and goes to consult two other fellow psychologists on one occasion. They provide contact with an element the inventor, consciously or not, knows he needs to assert himself as fully male.Other people who are also reading this book for the psychological insights, for whom it does nothing to read 200 times about Peg A going into Hole B, may want to consider this approach.

Though the author's explanations give the impression of being presumptuous at certain points, nancy tried to be objective in most cases and the book in overall is very riveting.In creating this historic study, Nancy Friday listened—without disapproval, apology or censorship—to the candid responses of thousands of men aged fourteen through sixty.