DIRTY LAUNDRY: Why adults with ADHD are so ashamed and what we can do to help

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Luckily the lady’s patience and good nature extended to another flight the next day, which Rox managed to make. The way Richard’s parts of this book reads feels as though he endlessly infantilizes his partner due to her ADHD. Please try again later as the restrictions may be lifted, or contact your service provider if the issue persists. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has adhd or in a relationship with someone who has it.

Then I paused it, wrote this with the hopes of some day posting it as a review, and proceeded to listen to a book I have a feeling I am going to love all the more by the end. Having struggled with similar relationship troubles, hearing “people can be a hyper focus” allowed me to finally be able to understand and explain my past behavior. jednak podejrzewam, że inne książki na temat adhd powiedzą to samo i pogłębią te części, których tu było za mało.It's a husband and wife team utterly in love and both doing their absolute best to support one another. I've been reading it with my mom - more to help her understand me, but also to reassure myself I'm not alone with my weird quirks. Learn how to:- Stop believing you are fundamentally broken- Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world- Communicate your struggles to those who love you- Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them- Be compassionate rather than judgemental …and much more.

If you learn to regulate your emotions through breathing or meditation, the stress of losing something can be reduced. I just wrote and then deleted a massive list of the things I am going to try and be more compassionate about – but you don’t really need to know that!Again, I get what the book tried to do and I appreciate it, but my own personal experience and my views on this subject made me disagree too much to enjoy it or feel like recommending it to anyone. Rox communicates her struggles very well and honest, allowing me to connect with them even when I haven't gone through the exact same thing.

We also do not know how she works her recovery programme -- the 12 steps are quite spiritual, but she makes no mention of any spiritual practice -- which suggests her partner may be her 'higher power' in all of this. It talks about the shame of a messy house and ideas to reframe cleaning from “I ought to do these dishes” to “future me will be thankful these dishes are done”. She was on her way to cram for her actual exam tomorrow, when she heard some other students struggling with a topic she was familiar with.for my marriage this is a great book because hearing from both Rox and Rich, my husband has realized some things I do really aren't my fault always, what I do isn't personal and against him. I can tell it was written with the best of intentions, but as a person who learned to function despite her ADHD on her own, I find the message in these pages slightly troubling.

This book is fantastic at highlighting some common ADHD behaviours, constantly reminding you of the shame said behaviours will create, and how as their partner you can reframe your way of thinking. This is absolutely not a value judgement on their particular way of handling things; just saying that, to me, some of the advice felt very *not congruent* with what therapists and doctors have said to me, about my own personal situation.However if you want an introduction to the basics of ADHD- perhaps you're questioning whether an ADHD diagnosis fits you, or you're looking for some tips for common ADHD symptoms- then this is a good book to start with. I’d recommend this book for anyone struggling with deep despair caused by the ADHD in yourself, your relationships or your family; it’s full of hope, genuine compassion and practical tips. and we have different views on lots of things – but we always discuss things in a respectful way (which is pretty bloody unusual in this day and age of polarised opinions being shouted about on social media! If you are lucky enough to have a spouse, family member, or friend who can support you then this book may be a good starting point for them to understand some of the ADHD struggles that many people face and how to support them.