Every Family Has A Story: How we inherit love and loss

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Talking to your children soberly about values like tenacity, courage or forgiveness can be less effective than telling a story about a person they know who lived through a real situation. Julia Samuel I would like you to be my mother, grandmother, great grandmother sister and best friend.

Some people in their lifetime share what’s important to them, and in doing so, they help others learn from their experience.

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In doing so she shows how much is, in fact, inherited -- and how much can be healed when it is faced together. So his death had never been processed because as one of the things, one of the things that the mother, who is incredibly brave to do this therapy with her daughters, said, I never did ask, how was it for you? What's most important is to remember the histories that we carry, and prioritize capturing them while we still can. Her previous books are This Too Shall Pass and Grief Works, both of which were Sunday Times bestsellers. Doing this for multiple family members simultaneously and also writing it all down in a clear and helpful book within months of meeting the families is extremely impressive.But also, when we are suffering and normaly, people that suffer are hurting and not their best selves. So one of the things, if you want to kind of think about not passing down inherited trauma kind of deal with it in your lifetime because you will pass otherwise, you know, suicide is like a cluster bomb. Archie takes his adult children out separately to apologise for his shortcomings as a father, and each reports on the transformative effect on their relationship with him. Read more about how bodies hold on to trauma and childhood stress in a book written Besel Vander Kolk in The Body Keeps Score .