His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts

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I put it off for a couple years because I have SO many books on my shelf, but it was really, really helpful.

So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him, and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. If he doesn't find her "irresistible" he will likely have a passionate affair from which he'll never completely recover.Mẹ mình hay bảo mình là cái đồ cứ hay đọc sách đọc sách nhưng tính mình vậy rồi thà đứng yên bất động cho dòng đời xoay chuyển chứ quyết không liều mình lao vào làm những thứ mà mình không biết nó là cái gì. The over one million couples who have read His Needs, Her Needs have learned to make their marriages sizzle, and they are recommending it to others. To determine your preferences and those of your spouse, there is a questionnaire at the back, and if that isn't enough, more are available at his web site. Rather than showing all failed marriages ending in an affair, he could have shown the un-fulfillment of needs leading to the more common sexual, emotional, or spiritual distances felt in weak marriages which could potentially end in divorce. The bottom line is, the book provides insight on what makes your spouse happy and fulfilled and offers good, practical advice on steps you can take to make your marriage better.

He further elaborates on the concept of 'Fair Fight', providing practical advice on how to avoid hurt and resentment during disagreements, and how to instead use these conflicts to enhance understanding and intimacy. A central theme is that love isn't a feeling but a habit, and that habits can be developed with practice. Cá nhân mình thấy thì tác giả có nhiều lần trích dẫn Kinh thánh (hoặc lời giảng của Chúa hay từ sách giáo huấn - mình không rõ gọi là gì), do không theo Thiên chúa nên mình cũng không cảm nhận được gì và cũng không hiểu gì. Albania, Algeria, American Samoa, Andorra, Angola, Anguilla, Antigua and Barbuda, Argentina, Armenia, Aruba, Australia, Bahamas, Bahrain, Bangladesh, Barbados, Belgium, Belize, Benin, Bermuda, Bhutan, Bolivia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Botswana, Brazil, British Virgin Islands, Brunei Darussalam, Bulgaria, Burkina Faso, Burundi, Cambodia, Cameroon, Canada, Cape Verde Islands, Cayman Islands, Central African Republic, Chad, Chile, China, Colombia, Comoros, Cook Islands, Costa Rica, Cyprus, Czech Republic, Côte d'Ivoire (Ivory Coast), Democratic Republic of the Congo, Denmark, Djibouti, Dominica, Dominican Republic, Ecuador, Egypt, El Salvador, Equatorial Guinea, Eritrea, Estonia, Ethiopia, European Union, Falkland Islands (Islas Malvinas), Finland, France, French Guiana, French Polynesia, Gabon Republic, Gambia, Ghana, Gibraltar, Greece, Greenland, Grenada, Guadeloupe, Guam, Guatemala, Guernsey, Guinea, Guinea-Bissau, Guyana, Haiti, Honduras, Hong Kong, Hungary, Iceland, India, Indonesia, Iraq, Ireland, Israel, Italy, Jamaica, Japan, Jersey, Jordan, Kenya, Kiribati, Kuwait, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Latvia, Lebanon, Lesotho, Liberia, Liechtenstein, Lithuania, Luxembourg, Macau, Macedonia, Madagascar, Malawi, Malaysia, Maldives, Mali, Malta, Marshall Islands, Martinique, Mauritania, Mauritius, Mayotte, Mexico, Micronesia, Moldova, Monaco, Mongolia, Montenegro, Montserrat, Morocco, Namibia, Nepal, Netherlands, Netherlands Antilles, New Zealand, Nicaragua, Niger, Niue, Norway, Oman, Pakistan, Palau, Panama, Papua New Guinea, Paraguay, Peru, Philippines, Poland, Portugal, Puerto Rico, Qatar, Republic of Croatia, Republic of the Congo, Reunion, Romania, Saint Helena, Saint Kitts-Nevis, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, San Marino, Saudi Arabia, Senegal, Serbia, Sierra Leone, Singapore, Slovakia, Slovenia, Solomon Islands, South Africa, South Korea, Spain, Sri Lanka, Suriname, Svalbard and Jan Mayen, Swaziland, Sweden, Switzerland, Taiwan, Tajikistan, Tanzania, Thailand, Togo, Tonga, Trinidad and Tobago, Tunisia, Turkey, Turkmenistan, Turks and Caicos Islands, Tuvalu, Uganda, Ukraine, United Arab Emirates, United Kingdom, United States, Uruguay, Uzbekistan, Vanuatu, Vatican City State, Venezuela, Virgin Islands (U.

Over this book I would recommend Arterburn's Seven Minute Marriage Solution, Emerson Eggerichs' Love and Respect, and many more. Also, I feel that the author might not take enough breaks in between reading the book and he ends up sounding robotic at times and his voice is pasty. For example, Chapman’s “words of affirmation” is Harley’s “admiration” and “transparency”; and Chapman’s “quality time” is Harley’s “family commitment,” “recreational companionship,” and “intimate conversation” (Chapman, Chapters 4 and 5; Harley, Appendix A).

Upon marriage, the fight for knowing one’s spouse is generally lost, because there is little fear of losing the spouse, and there is much expectancy of what the next fifty years of marriage will afford. This section will discuss how we have taken steps to improve both our domestic life and our recreational life together. Because we come from two different cultures, we have had trouble in the past settling on activities we each enjoy highly and equally, a problem I have not taken well, since recreational companionship is perhaps my number one basic need. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family. He admits that every couple is different, but almost all spouses will have at least one of his five as their major need.It is definitely possible for one spouse to focus on meeting the other spouse's needs, but Harley's approach involves lots of communication and survey-taking and feedback-giving.

Loosely speaking, Chapman’s five love languages are simply a new way of categorizing Harley’s ten basic needs of men and women. The problem is that they take their relationships for granted and stop doing the things they did when they were dating. is a clinical psychologist, a marriage counsellor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Love Busters; and His Needs, Her Needs for Parents.

Domestic support- The wife should not pursue a career, and if she does work household chores should be divided according to the needs of the husband.